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  • Mar
  • So i have this "best friend" and well she wasn't talking to me for a while because 2 of our friends get "jealous" when her and I hang out. Honestly I think it's stupid that she wasn't talking to me just because of that. Since she's my best friend and i'm hers i tried to understand why she did that. Anyway she's talking to me now. It's not the same anymore though. We don't talk like we used to, we don't hang out as much, and we barely even say hi to each other at school. I'm really tired of people doing this to me. I'm tired of having best friends that just leave me. I'm also tired of losing how things used to be between me and my best friends because of a stupid thing. I just can't take it anymore. I know friends shouldn't be worth my life, but i honestly feel like killing myself. I'm just tired of life.

    How do i get it to the way it used to be?
    I want to tell her that i'm tired of people doing that to me, but how?

    I'm 13 and i'm a girl if that helps in a way but i dont think it does,but yeah....
    Thanks for taking your time in answering....
    If you need more details please message me.


  • well, this is a tricky situation. it might be one of those situations that will just "fall into place." invite the girl over for a movie night, or somethign fun where it concerns just the 2 of you. watching a movie (her choice..or both you really like) will bring you guys togerther, because when talking gets awkward, there is always the movie and the popcorn to distract you.. try a funny movie, such as an amanda bynes one. such as "she's the man." i lovee that movie. its perfect for your age. its hilarious, a little romantic, and always entertaining. or "sydney white." is another good one.. i likes she's the man more, but this one is also funny, and cute. or, you could try something more modern, like "get smart." that one is sooo funny. and the other night i watched "the sisterhood of the traveling pants 2,'.. great girl movie, or a some call it "chick flick."
    you could also just try to interact with her more. YOU be the one to say "heyy" to her in the hall. she might be feeling like you, a little awkward and upset about this situation. you will never know until you try..
    sometimes, this may sound sooooo corny, but write her a letter if things get really out of hand. i used to be BEST friends with my neighbor, we woudl do like..e verything together. eat dinner, play, sleepovers... but then she got older.. we are 2 years apart, and once she entered junior high, things definetly changed... i also felt jealous that she was hanging out with other ppl more.. but i was the one that was jealous in this case.. but one day, after a fight that lasted about a week or so, she wrote me a letter, simply saying "hey. i am sooo sorry for how i have been acting. we are both growing up and it can definetly be hard sometimes.." it was muchhh longer, about a page long, but it really meeant a lot, she even pasted picture of my favorite tv show characters, animal, etc. it meant a lot, if you guys ever get in a bad situation... that might help.
    once you guys are closer.. atleast closer then you are now, you could bring it up. say "i am sorry about our other friends, but lets try to forget about it.. we can all be friends, and no one should hog the other...truce?"
    etc...
    good luck! i know situations like this can be sticky, but what everyone needs to do, is just move on... forget the past, and the future is what matters.. unles its good stuff. i know i sound so corny, but i like corny.
    :^)


  • wow you seem to be going through a lot. okay, i had a friend who did the same thing to me. this other girl used to try to take me away from my best friend, and my best friend would get mad, and tired of the girl trying to take me away from my best friend. so instead of not being friends with me, she ran off with the other girl. and i was left alone.

    and seriously, i love it this way. i have another best friend. in fact, i have three of the best friends i could ever have. =)

    feeling suicidal isn't going to help. i suggest you have hot chocolate (unless you don't like it for some odd reason) and watch a good movie with another friend, for once. leaving your best friend alone is much better than following her, feeling suicidal.


  • Your friends are weak and easily influenced by others. So your friendships are predictably disappointing because your friends can't be relied on at all. And telling them that you're tired of their behavior won't do anything, because it can't change their basic weakness and limitations.

    So....this is not about you. It's about weak people. If you can find other friends at your maturity level, these things won't happen. It's all about choosing the optimal people with whom to surround yourself.


  • Wow, you seem really mature for 13! I thought you were about 16 or 17. But yeah, that's kind how life is bud. And yeah, it sucks but people change and end friendships over the littlest and stupidest things sometimes. So i think often times you're better off just being your own best friend and having a bunch of friends who are fun to hang out with. Just don't tell them personal stuff because, as you seem to know, it can come back to haunt you once the friendship ends.

    To try and get your friendship back with your best friend, invite her over just the two of you. Yeah, it might be a little awkward but you can try to get things back on track with her by inviting her over. Who knows, maybe you'll suddenly just "click" again like old times. And if you want, you can bring upt he whole issue and talk about it. It's a lot better to talk about this sort of thing in person than via internet, phone, texting, etc. Good luck! ♥


  • I know what your feeling, but you can't let it get you down. If she really was your best friend, then she shouldn't have blown you off like that for her other friends. Maybe it's just time to switch up friends, make some new ones or better friends with old ones. Don't let her get in the way of you living your life. I can guarantee that by the time your a sophomore in high school, you won't be friends anymore anyway, so don't worry about it too much, and just keep your head up and keep moving on,
    Good luck!


  • You're only 13, you have so much ahead of you, more then just middle school friends who ditch you for crap. Friends that ditch you were never friends at all, therefore that being said try not to worry about it. Friends come and they go, a select few stay with us forever and those are the ones that matter. The ones that will always be there and not ditch at the first sign of something stupid.


  • hey i am 13 to life does suck but dont kill yourself it may solve your problems but just think your mom and dad they will be crying for the rest of their lives and they will be miserable please dnt i have problems getting and keep friends i havent had many friend so when i get one i go crazy and call them everyday i tlak to them like 24/7 and they get really mad at me because i dont give them their space i dont have any friends now i just becometo attatched to the friends i do get and they end up hating me ok ame thing wihtmy ex bf well ust talk to your friend about it and tell them wat you told us good luck







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